“The mother-child relationship is paradoxical and, in a sense, tragic. It requires the most intense love on the mother's side, yet this very love must help the child grow away from the mother, and to become fully independent.”

“The mother-child relationship is paradoxical and, in a sense, tragic. It requires the most intense love on the mother's side, yet this very love must help the child grow away from the mother, and to become fully independent.”    Erich Fromm quotes (German born American social Philosopher and Psychoanalyst, 1900-1980)

If you have been reading my blog posts since August it is no surprise to you that I have joined the growing number of women diagnosed with breast cancer.  http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Breast_cancer 

As the doctor gave me the news in October that the biopsy on my right breast has a sprinkling of malignant cancer cells I distinctly remember the first word in my mind then I heard myself say was,  JESUS !!!  Since I am a believer, in my case, I feel sure it was a spontaneous shock response as well as a prayer simultaneously.  

The next I remember thinking, " Oh No, I don't want to be a burden on Barry and Kara. "  They are working so hard and doing so well in their personal lives and careers last thing I want to do is add another thing on their plate to worry about me.  

Not surprisingly the seeds planted early in their lives have grown strong into fruition. 
 Both Barry and Kara said since I had invested so much of my life energy into their success they that fully intended to be here for me. 

 We don't spend anytime shedding tears together, in fact, they say being around me is very reassuring, relaxing and uplifting.  We each have our own private times that fear overtakes us and we release a tear or two.  This is a time to be proactive not giving in to fear.  Fear arises when we lose out focus that a Higher Power has all of us in the exact place we are supposed to be.

Kara says being with me is more comforting than when she thinks about me and cancer when she is away from me.  She laughs the evening I came home after spending 6 hours on my initial visit to Roswell Park Cancer Institute I was dancing in my studio to Steve Miller Band- 1982 Abracadabra
  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vWPQQbldFjw&feature=related

Hey after all, I am a  Baby Boomer-Generation Jones.  How else am I going to work out my pent up energy aside from dancing to rock & roll ???  http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Baby_boomer  

Barry has been calling me often to keep abreast with my health news flash updates.  Fortunately, this past week he was able to come work from our home in Western New York.  Barry agrees with Kara seeing and being with me is less frightening than not being around me.

This week is all about celebrations; Tuesday evening Jim took me to an Arlo Guthrie concert @ Buffalo State College, Wednesday evening Barry escorted me to an evening concert with Emmylou Harris -  State University of New York @ Buffalo.   

Thursday was Veteran's Day so Barry had the day off.  He told me to select anywhere I chose to go on that warm, bright, sunny day.  
I chose to spend our day in Niagara Fall, New York @ the American Falls.
 http://www.niagarafallslive.com/facts_about_niagara_falls.htm


" The air around Niagara Falls or another turbulent water source, for example, may contain between 30,000 and 100,000 negative ions per cubic centimeter. A negative ion (or to be more proper, a negative-charged ion) is a molecule that has an extra electron attached. The negative ions that we are addressing here, the ions produced by indoor waterfalls and mountain streams, are oxygen ions.



What Do They Do? Negative ions have been proven to have a positive impact on health, mood, and energy, affecting serotonin levels in the brain. Negative ions also bond with impurities in the air, adhering to suspended particles and removing them. "
http://www.discountfountains.com/negative-ions.html
 
The journey from Clarence to Niagara Falls is a wonderful drive through the country back roads for about 45 minutes is delightful.  As soon as we arrived in the the city Barry caught sight of a sign that read Little Italy Niagara       
 http://niagaratimes.com/Little%20Italy%20Niagara.htm
 
 
Barry treated me to a lunch consisting of a luscious cup of Bean and Greens soup followed by a plate of Cheese Lasagna and Eggplant Parmesan with Gnocchi. Sorry, I meant to take images to share with you but the soup was consumed and the nice waitress had packed up a large portions of the meal for us to enjoy later before I even thought about my camera. Trust me on this one, you have to go to Michael's on Pine Ave when you are at the Fall's.

Barry enjoying Negative Ions

Keep looking for Rainbows

Nikola Tesla http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nikola_Tesla

Barry talking to Meghan on cell as he balancing on granite rocks @ Three Sister's Island

                 Meghan flew into celebrate Thanksgiving with us all together this weekend.
Going out to shop for fresh veggies and organic fed Turkey to make our dinner later this evening. 

                                   Wishing you a very Creative Day ;~)